“True love is born from understanding.”

I don’t know where “True love is born from understanding” is from, but it’s not from the Buddha, despite many attributions that say it is.

It sounds very like Thich Nhat Hanh, but so far I haven’t found this exact saying in any of his books. There is something similar in one of his books, “Reconciliation: Healing the Inner Child,” with reference to the emotional release of crying:

With the energy discharged, we will be able to look deeply AND TO UNDERSTAND, AND THAT IS WHERE TRUE LOVE IS BORN.

These aren’t the words of Thich Nhat Hanh, however, but of a disciple, Thay Phap An.

In the book, “True Love,” Thich Nhat Hanh writes “Understanding is the essence of love. If you cannot understand, you cannot love.” He also writes, “Without understanding, love is an impossible thing,” and “Love is a true thing if it is made up of a substance called understanding.”

All these quotes are in the ball park, but none is a palpable hit.

2 thoughts on ““True love is born from understanding.””

  1. Actually that is the whole intention and outcome of the Buddhas way and also why he forced you first to understand, so that such as real compassion and metta has a ground.

    Nobody would, who is attached to other being, would ever start to practice the noble eight-fold path, if such would be not the principal motive.

    Atma could not in any way call it not being the dhamma, since it is totally right.

    Maybe an interesting short saying from somebody who talked in equal ways: How few understand what love really is,…

    1. I’m afraid I don’t understand what you’re trying to say, Johann. (I’m guessing that English is not your native language.) If you’re trying to make the point that the quote is valid from a Dharmic point of view, then I agree. But my point in flagging this as a Fake Buddha Quote is simply to question its origins, not to debate its validity.

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